I’m realizing more and more the importance and value of one (of many, many) lesson my mom taught me: congruence. Congruence is when all of your wishes and beliefs come together with all your actions. Alignment, as she often referred to it as, is really one of the more difficult things for people to find in their lives. The truth is we tend to have so many inconsistencies in our daily lives, and I am starting to see how these can really hold us back. Living in constant conflict is like trying to lose weight by lifting weights and eating nothing but cupcakes. No matter how hard or often you lift weights, as long as you’re eating those cupcakes you’re never going to see any progress in your weight loss.
I got a lot of good responses on my pursuit of purpose post. Let me just say that I completely agree with the idea of doing just what makes you happy, and I have for a long time tried to live life in that way. That’s really what my last post was about, because I believe that living your purpose is a way to fill your life with happiness.
I do believe, however, that you have to do a little more thinking about where you want to go than just “doing what makes you happy.” I think you need to have a clear vision of what you want on many levels, today, tomorrow, this week, this month, this year, next year, next 5 years, next 30 years, next 50 years. I’m not saying that you’ll fulfill all of those visions, nor am I saying you need to sit down everyday for an hour and write all these things out, but I do believe a few hours a month thinking about where you are and where you want to go will make it easier for you to do two things:
1.)enjoy the present
2.)create your future
Ultimately for me it’s about just getting out there and doing things. I want to learn Spanish, I want to take cooking classes, I want to take piano lessons, I want to take improv classes..on and on on and on, and for me these things take on new importance in my recent search for a purpose. I haven’t quite nailed down a purpose that feels right yet, but I do know that maintaining my childlike curiosity, something that I definitely share with my mom, is extremely important to me and therefore these activities are much vital to my happiness. I guess a purpose helps to provide a frame and a priority checklist. Ultimately it is about having happy, yes, but it doesn’t hurt to think about what happy looks like.
A great quote someone sent me the other day:
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. Explore. Dream. Discover.”
What do I want to do in this life? I just want to wake up in the morning and feel excited for what the world has to offer me that day, and what I have to offer it. Is that so much to ask? I don’t think so. I truly believe that life can be like this. I’d like to go through a day and say “damn that felt good,” on a daily basis. The question is, does it feel like this only when you change your perspective, only when you change what you’re doing that day, or both? Continue reading